Whoever would have thought that the some men might shy away from having intimate relations because of the intense headache pain they experience as they are about to climax.
This is a very real problem and although not common it can be a big issue for men in serious relationships. How do you tell your girlfriend or wife that although you love her deeply you cannot make love with her because it hurts your head too much?
Many women will assume its a line being used to avoid having sex and that their relationship might be in serious danger. But instead what they must do is accompany their man to his health care provider so that this odd phenomenon can be better explained to them.
Oddly headaches during sex seem to hit men at two distinct periods during their lives They will either begin between the ages of twenty and twenty four or somewhere in the thirty five to forty four age range. There is no known explanation for why this occurs at either of these times. Interestingly men who suffer from headaches during sex are very often migraine headache sufferers as well.
Some women do suffer from these headaches as well, but they seem to be outnumbered by the men. Woman, so frequently accused of using headaches as an excuse not to have sex, have even more trouble convincing their lovers of this headache problem being real.
These sex headaches have been classified as an exertion problem. Its like the person is stressing their bodies during sex and like any excessive exertion the body is not handling it well. So the headache starts as the exertion increases.
Some physicians will suggest trying to slow down the final phase of intercourse to bring on orgasm slower as sometimes this helps to lessen the headache pain. Sex headaches are sharp, severe, sudden pain and anything that can be done to diminish this pain is worth a try. Research is still trying to understand the cause of sex headaches, also known as orgasmic cephalalgia.
Researchers suspect that the enthusiastic exercise that occurs during intercourse, which raises a persons blood pressure and increases their heart rate, also releases certain chemicals into the brain. They further surmise that these chemicals then become a headache trigger.
There are not a lot of things that can be done to help this inconvenient problem. Some health care providers suggest the use of a painkiller and anti-inflammatory, a particular one originally used for arthritis treatment that is now being used quite successfully for headrace care as well.
Others suggest the use of beta-blockers, which is traditionally a heart medication, which has had some good results in the treatment of migraines. The suggestion for the lover of someone with this frustrating problem is patience. It is not a psychosomatic headache.
Your lover is not feeling intense headache pain just to avoid having sexual relations with you. These headaches will go on for a while and disappear as mysteriously as they appeared.
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