At our English boarding school in the 1990s, my friends and I would spend hours immersed in roleplaying games. Our favourite was Vampire: The Masquerade, and I can well remember experiencing a kind of psychological hangover after spending an afternoon in the character of a ruthless undead villain. It took a while to shake off… Read more

People carry a heavier burden from rejection when they view it as revealing something about “who they really are” as a person, new research from Stanford University shows. The study examines the link between rejection and a person’s sense of self. Carol Dweck, a professor of psychology, co-authored the paper along with psychology doctoral student… Read more

Self-image is one of the ways in which one will often times look at them from a different type of reality. One’s perceived image often causes a reaction from an individual. If this is brought to an extreme, it causes body dysmorphic disorder. This causes one to believe that they must continue to work on their self-image until it is perfected. As a result, plastic surgery and other forms of trying to reconstruct one become a dominant factor in one trying to find the perfect look.

Self-image begins as a way for one to express their personality. If someone has a negative impression of their image, then they will try to find ways to perfect it or make it better. They may often feel that the looks that they have are abnormal or not good enough. This feeling becomes so dominant that it will cause them to begin looking at options for them to fix this problem.

Paying the Price for Perceived Perfection

Changing your behavior is a key component to conquering obesity. Crash diets that cause people to lose weight drastically almost always backfire because there is no change in behavior and habits. Surgical procedures are a last resort. Obesity is a lifestyle, and conquering obesity is a lifestyle also. Losing focus is a common problem with those who are trying to lose weight and keep it off.

Most of us do not have goals, and are generally not in the habit of goal setting. Many of us think we have goals, because we have stated what we want. However, if we haven’t written them down in completely positive language, and eliminated goals that conflict with each other, then we don’t truly have goals. What is positive language? A statement that uses positive words and not negative words toward achieving a goal. An example of a positive statement would be, “I weigh 150 pounds. I am fit and trim, and full of energy.”

To the contrary, examples of negative statements are, “I will not be fat anymore. I will not overeat. I am sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I will not eat fattening foods.” While these negative statements appear to say what you want at first, they truly only say what you don’t want, and the subconscious mind does not know the difference between want and not, it only focuses on subjects. Therefore, if you speak of not being fat, it only hears being fat; if it hears you speak of not overeating, it only hears overeating; and if it hears you being sick and tired of being sick and tired, it only actually registers being sick and tired.