Perfectionists who set impossibly high standards for other people have a bit of a dark side. They tend to be antisocial, narcissistic, and to have an aggressive sense of humor.
And they don’t care much about social norms or readily fit into the bigger social picture. So says Joachim Stoeber of the University of Kent , who compared the characteristics of so-called other-orientated perfectionists against those of perfectionists who set the bar extremely high for themselves.
Perfectionism is a personality trait characterized by the setting of extremely high standards and being overly critical of oneself or others. Psychologists recognize three types of perfectionism, each with different beliefs, attitudes, motivations and behaviors.
“Self-oriented” perfectionists have exceedingly high personal standards, strive for perfection and expect themselves to be perfect.
Dark Triad Personality
In comparison, “socially prescribed” perfectionists believe that being perfect is important to others and therefore strive to be flawless. People who have one of these tendencies all tend to be highly critical of themselves.
By contrast, “other-oriented” perfectionists are only disparaging and judgmental about others. Not only do they expect other people to be perfect, but they can also be highly critical of those who fail to meet their expectations.
Previous research done by Stoeber has found that such perfectionists tend to have the so-called “Dark Triad” personality traits of narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy. Also, they have issues with intimacy, nurturing and their social development.
Stoeber took his research one step further. He investigated how the three types of perfectionists differ in their social behavior and the type of humor they engage in, among other traits. For this purpose he questioned 229 university students.
Aggressive Sense of Humor
Stoeber found self-orientated perfectionism to be the only one of the three forms that has a pro-social element to it.
Even though they focus on themselves, they show an interest in others, care about social norms and about others’ expectations. They prefer affiliative humor that enhances relationships, and shy away from aggressive jokes.
Socially prescribed perfectionists, on the other hand, make self-deprecating jokes, have a low self-esteem and a low self-regard, and often feel inferior. They can be quite antisocial and unemotional, and do not respond well to positive feedback.
Other-oriented perfectionists in turn have quite an aggressive sense of humor, which is used at the expense of others.
This is just one of the many uncaring traits they have that make them disregard the expectations of others and social norms. They have a sense of superiority and do not easily fit into a bigger social circle, making them quite antisocial. Stoeber summarizes:
“Other-oriented perfectionism is a ‘dark’ form of perfectionism positively associated with narcissistic, antisocial and uncaring personality characteristics.”
How other-oriented perfectionism differs from self-oriented and socially prescribed perfectionism: Further findings.
Journal of Psychopathology and Behavioral Assessment, May 2015 DOI: 10.1007/s10862-015-9485-y
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